bugfix: correctly error out when ngx.socket.tcp is shutdown before connect

[fffonion]

Can be reproduced by following example:

user www-data;
daemon off;
master_process off;

events {
}

stream {
	error_log /dev/stdout info;
	server {
		listen 23333;
		    content_by_lua_block {
                        local t = ngx.socket.tcp()
                        t:shutdown("send")
		    }
	}
}

This PR moves the check of u before calling ngx_stream_lua_socket_handle_write_error.

[tzssangglass]

make sense

[fffonion]

Thank you!