Update pybind11 (#21072)

### Description
Upgrade pybind11 to the latest as suggested by @gnought in #21063

### Motivation and Context
Recently numpy released a new version, which caused compatibility issue
between the latest numpy version and the latest ONNX Runtime version.

cgmanifests/generated/cgmanifest.json

@@ -256,7 +256,7 @@
       "component": {
         "type": "git",
         "git": {
-          "commitHash": "80dc998efced8ceb2be59756668a7e90e8bef917",
+          "commitHash": "3e9dfa2866941655c56877882565e7577de6fc7b",
           "repositoryUrl": "https://github.com/pybind/pybind11.git"
         },
         "comments": "pybind11"

cmake/deps.txt

@@ -48,7 +48,7 @@ protoc_linux_aarch64;https://github.com/protocolbuffers/protobuf/releases/downlo
 protoc_mac_universal;https://github.com/protocolbuffers/protobuf/releases/download/v21.12/protoc-21.12-osx-universal_binary.zip;23710c3d1c2036d8d65a6a22234372fa2d7af9ef
 psimd;https://github.com/Maratyszcza/psimd/archive/072586a71b55b7f8c584153d223e95687148a900.zip;1f5454b01f06f9656b77e4a5e2e31d7422487013
 pthreadpool;https://github.com/Maratyszcza/pthreadpool/archive/4fe0e1e183925bf8cfa6aae24237e724a96479b8.zip;07a0aa91dd9bf86f31b95497e00f31d8a261a4bd
-pybind11;https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/archive/refs/tags/v2.10.1.zip;769b6aa67a77f17a770960f604b727645b6f6a13
+pybind11;https://github.com/pybind/pybind11/archive/refs/tags/v2.12.0.zip;8482f57ed55c7b100672815a311d5450858723fb
 pytorch_cpuinfo;https://github.com/pytorch/cpuinfo/archive/959002f82d7962a473d8bf301845f2af720e0aa4.zip;85da3caa60eb2b148613b443fbc2bfdc30689965
 re2;https://github.com/google/re2/archive/refs/tags/2024-05-01.tar.gz;206cfee5ee0b4c6844680ba66275e9e8faa77405
 safeint;https://github.com/dcleblanc/SafeInt/archive/refs/tags/3.0.28.zip;23f252040ff6cb9f1fd18575b32fa8fb5928daac

tools/ci_build/github/azure-pipelines/templates/download-deps.yml

@@ -11,7 +11,7 @@ steps:
       packageType: upack
       feed: '/7424c8e4-5c62-490e-95c4-79446f31017c'
       definition: '517c4f6f-5437-4392-a70d-4f15ec5be2f0'
-      version: 1.0.157
+      version: 1.0.162
       downloadPath: $(Build.BinariesDirectory)/deps
 
 # The private ADO project
@@ -22,7 +22,7 @@ steps:
       packageType: upack
       feed: '/4c7631f5-24c0-4307-8822-1aa8f180c325'
       definition: 'fd9dd5ad-b73e-4678-890e-edcf680dbc1a'
-      version: 1.0.157
+      version: 1.0.162
       downloadPath: $(Build.BinariesDirectory)/deps
 
 # You can add more ADO accounts at here.