Exclude cuDNN 9 and CUDA 12 DLLs from manylinux wheel (#21738)

### Description
Exclude cuDNN 9 and CUDA 12 DLLs from manylinux wheel to reduce python
package size.

### Motivation and Context

The 1.20.0 ort-nightly-gpu python wheels on linux are suddenly > 800 MB
in size. The wheels built on 1.19 release branch have a size of around
220 MB.

The size change is caused by
#19470.

setup.py

@@ -208,6 +208,16 @@ def run(self):
                     "libcufft.so.10",
                     "libcufft.so.11",
                     "libcurand.so.10",
+                    "libcudnn_adv.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_cnn.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_engines_precompiled.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_engines_runtime_compiled.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_graph.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_heuristic.so.9",
+                    "libcudnn_ops.so.9",
+                    "libnvJitLink.so.12",
+                    "libnvrtc.so.12",
+                    "libnvrtc-builtins.so.12",
                 ]
                 rocm_dependencies = [
                     "libamd_comgr.so.2",