[BugFix] Fix spill cost too much memory when enable group execution (backport #51935)

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Why I'm doing:

SSB100G

set pipeline_dop=1;
set enable_spill=true;
set spill_mode="force";
set enable_spill_buffer_read=false;
select count(*) from (select count(*) from lineorder group by lo_orderkey)t;

baseline:

     - QueryExecutionWallTime: 23s409ms
     - QueryPeakMemoryUsagePerNode: 1.182 GB
     - QueryPeakScheduleTime: 21.029ms
     - QuerySpillBytes: 1.124 GB
     - QuerySumMemoryUsage: 2.363 GB

fixed:

     - QueryExecutionWallTime: 22s812ms
     - QueryPeakMemoryUsagePerNode: 82.066 MB
     - QueryPeakScheduleTime: 21.634ms
     - QuerySpillBytes: 1.124 GB
     - QuerySumMemoryUsage: 164.131 MB

What I'm doing:

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr

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• I have checked the version labels which the pr will be auto-backported to the target branch
  • 3.3
  • 3.2
  • 3.1
  • 3.0
  • 2.5

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This is an automatic backport of pull request #51935 done by [Mergify](https://mergify.com). ## Why I'm doing: SSB100G ``` set pipeline_dop=1; set enable_spill=true; set spill_mode="force"; set enable_spill_buffer_read=false; select count(*) from (select count(*) from lineorder group by lo_orderkey)t; ```

baseline:

     - QueryExecutionWallTime: 23s409ms
     - QueryPeakMemoryUsagePerNode: 1.182 GB
     - QueryPeakScheduleTime: 21.029ms
     - QuerySpillBytes: 1.124 GB
     - QuerySumMemoryUsage: 2.363 GB

fixed:

     - QueryExecutionWallTime: 22s812ms
     - QueryPeakMemoryUsagePerNode: 82.066 MB
     - QueryPeakScheduleTime: 21.634ms
     - QuerySpillBytes: 1.124 GB
     - QuerySumMemoryUsage: 164.131 MB

What I'm doing:

Fixes #issue

What type of PR is this:

• BugFix
• Feature
• Enhancement
• Refactor
• UT
• Doc
• Tool

Does this PR entail a change in behavior?

• Yes, this PR will result in a change in behavior.
• No, this PR will not result in a change in behavior.

If yes, please specify the type of change:

• Interface/UI changes: syntax, type conversion, expression evaluation, display information
• Parameter changes: default values, similar parameters but with different default values
• Policy changes: use new policy to replace old one, functionality automatically enabled
• Feature removed
• Miscellaneous: upgrade & downgrade compatibility, etc.

Checklist:

• I have added test cases for my bug fix or my new feature
• This pr needs user documentation (for new or modified features or behaviors)
  • I have added documentation for my new feature or new function
• This is a backport pr