Bump kind version and use a cluster version aligned with our client-go dependency

[joelanford]

In order to test against the same kubernetes cluster version that our dependencies align with, we should update kind and additionally update our Makefile configuration to derive a kind image to use based on the version of our client-go dependency.

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