Read/Write and connection timeout

[jakelandis]

If a connection (while in client mode) can not be made we should provide a configurable timeout value (For example /proc/sys/net/ipv4/tcp_syn_retries) .

If the connection on the other end of the connection dies without any warning we should provide configurable read/write timeouts. ( For example SO_RCVTIMEO / SO_SNDTIMEO or poll with timeout if working directly with the socket)

Today, the timeouts are dictated by the OS, which are global can be difficult to change in a manner that does not impact other services on the OS. In particular the general default timeouts for read/write on most OS is very long.

We should leverage the client/language specific features to enable these timeouts.