Forge & Flux RAM problem? (not VRAM)

[Adzido]

Hello, I thought I'd start this topic because I can't deal with it anymore.
Ryzen 9 5900/32GB Ram DDR4/GeForce 4080/Win10

The thing is that Flux is taking up a lot of RAM (not VRAM!) on my computer, so much so that I have to have almost everything turned off to be able to render anything, if I don't do that I have a ram usage of 99% right away and the whole computer stutters and it takes a minute before it recovers. Although here it is worth adding that this 99% most often occurs at the very end of rendering.

From what I've noticed I can have Flux and two LoRAs, if everything else is turned off will manage to render fairly quickly, while if I take 3 LoRAs the situation with 99% and problems is certain.

I ask because my friend has a similar computer, the same VRAM and the same GPU but on ComfyUI he can have even (!) 11 LoRA and has no such problems - yes, I know that Forge takes more resources of the computer, but no exaggeration to make such a difference. I probably have something wrongly set, which is why I am creating this topic.

As far as I know, VRAM even at 3 LoRA is not used under the upper limit.

Any idea or advice on what to set up? Or is it just that ForgeUI is so bad for Flux?