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  1. The Life Coach (blue)
  2. Tone Police (yellow)
  3. The Gaslighter (violet)
  4. Cookie Manster (blue)
  5. Himpathy (yellow)
  6. The Sealion (violet)
  7. The Mansplainer (blue)

Also known as "Victim Blaming", "Free Advice" or "You Got This".

Whatever issues you are discussing, he knows that your attitude is the real problem here!

Typical Comments

  • I would have shouted "NO" and kicked his butt! It's easy!
  • Dress more like a scientist & men won't be tempted
  • Now you know that was a bad mentor/lab/dept. What a great learning experience for you
  • Choose your battles. Tough it out, focus on the science and you'll be fine
  • Why didn't you speak out at the time?
  • You go girl! The future is female! Good luck with that

The Problem

Demands solutions from the victims.

Warning!

You may also hear this from women.

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "Civility Patrol" or "Oh My Delicate Male Ears".

Typical Comments

  • How rude! Now me must postpone all discussion of your experiences until you can make me feel comfortable
  • You seem upset. Perhaps you aren't able to handle rational discourse
  • If you get angry, they win
  • The mouth on you! No wonder u got harassed
  • Name calling is hardly productive, madam
  • Piling on this guy isn't helpful. I bet he learned his lesson and was probably misunderstood
  • Such nasty vitriol! All I did was calmly point out that women are irrational & unfit to do science

The Problem

Male comfort is priority #1

Warning!

Will call you a bitch eventually

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "The Male Interpreter", "Manecdotes" or "Walk It Off".

What’s the big deal anyway?

Typical Comments

  • Something similar happened to a man once, therefore you didn't experience sexism
  • His INTENTIONS were good. It's a compliment
  • He never assaulted women in front of me!
  • I need to know the exact context or I'll assume you've blown this out of proportion
  • He's just an old-school gentleman from a different culture with a hands-on mentoring style
  • Sexism is just an old man problem. When they all retire everything will be better!
  • If sexism was that common I would have noticed
  • And by the way, she's no saint either

The Problem

It's not that bad. And if it is, you deserve it

Warning!

He's already decided to ignore your response

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "#notallmen", "I Love Women" or "Mommy Look!".

He's such a nice guy.

(He might actually be a nice guy, which makes it hard to call this out. So here's a tweet to help.)

Typical Comments

  • I haven't harassed women to my knowledge, where's my lifetime achievement award
  • Not all men do bad things! My gf says I'm amazing
  • In faculty meeting somebody made a sexist remark & I thought to myself "that is so messed up"
  • Hey did you see we gave a woman an award? Yeah it feels pretty good to do charity
  • Some workplaces have problems with sexism but my mentees and I are BFFs ❤️❤️❤️ #coolboss
  • If I am pro-women how could my behavior ever be sexist? CHECKMATE
  • I am interested in being an all ally! Someone give me permission please 😃

The Problem

It's not about you, buddy

Warning!

All talk, no action

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "Witch Hunt", "Whatabout" or "Oh the huMANity".

He's worried that with all this talk about #MeToo we're losing sight of the real victims: him and his friends.

Typical Comments

  • Too many profs are being fired due to unsubstantiated rumors with no due process!! No I can't NAME any
  • If we start holding men responsible for their actions, where will it end?
  • She's just claiming harassment to get ahead, and he is suffering for it
  • We can't start protecting women until you can prove that nothing bad will ever happen to a man EVER
  • I'm afraid to work with women now :(
  • He is really going through a lot, the rules are changing, it's hard out there
  • Censorship! Why can't I say whatever comes into my mind while everyone walks on eggshells around me
  • If you keep this up, men will stop hitting on women at work and the human race will go extinct

The Problem

Only men are real to him

Warning!

Dangerous when cornered

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "Just Asking Questions (JAQass)" or "Data Dude".

Hey, he's just asking questions.

Typical Comments

  • Would you answer my endless bad-faith questions, which I could easily google on my own, with a little less attitude please?
  • If you don't respond to me, you're admitting I'm right. If you DO respond to me, this never ends
  • Pics or it didn't happen. Statistics or it didn't happen. Your testimony is unreliable solely because you are female.
  • Why won't you repeat all the details of your painful harassment story on demand and post all the evidence?
  • Is there even evidence that harrassment exists? I mean numbers, not some ANECDOTE
  • The burden is on you to waste time disproving my wild unsupported claims. Then I'll deny I ever said it. Ready?

The Problem

Data won't convince him anyway

Warning!

Only wants to exhaust you & get the last word

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening

Also known as "Well Actually", "You're Welcome" or "It Is Known".

The internet is about sharing information, whether you want it or not.

Typical Comments

  • Ah, I see you are interested in X, [person who has studied X for 20 years]! I have researched it all morning and it's more complex than you'd think. For instance did you know
  • No you didn't technically ask for advice, but a woman stating a fact is a cry for help
  • Your ideas were debunked years ago by a guy named... I think it starts with an F? Look it up, dummy
  • I notice you wear makeup. I thought you said you were a feminist. True feminism, you see [is wrong for 5 tweets]
  • There are many common misconceptions about what actually constitutes 'mansplaining'
  • I have something better than a degree in your field: a truly logical mind. Weep as I shatter your paradigms

The Problem

He's just a soul whose intentions are good

Warning!

Oh lord, please don't let him be misunderstood

What he actually should do

  • Stop replying, start listening